How to Use Fear As The Most Powerful Signal for Positive Change

Writing publicly for everyone to see scares me to death.
As I write this, I feel resistance every step of the way. If I focus on my breath and breathe in deep regularly, I can get over the anxiety. The thought of putting my words out there out into the open is scary.

Why would anyone put themselves out there, in the arena, to risk being shamed, boo’ed, or rejected? It goes against every one of our survival fibers in our body.

And yet, it’s the only way to live. We have to risk failure if we want to succeed. We have to risk being rejected if we want to use our voice. And we have to risk death if we want to feel alive. If failure is not an option, then neither is success. How counter intuitive.

Like Brene Brown said, we carry a 20 ton shield with us thinking it will protect us from the harshness of life. But we don’t realize how the very thing designed to shield us also makes us weary and drains the life force out of us.

Likewise, we wear a mask to blend in, fit in, and avoid judgment for who we truly are. But we sometimes don’t notice how that very mask that covers our face suffocates us as well.

Take it off and breathe deep.

Fear, uncertainty, pain, and anxiety courses through my veins. I wonder what I should do – listen to my body’s screams to stop. Or feel the fear, punch it in the face, and go forward anyway. If there’s anything I’ve learned in all my years of training and overcoming my insecurities, anxieties, and obstacles, it’s that what generally I fear most is what I must do most.

Fear is a signal on a compass. It points me in the direction that I most need to walk towards. I take that back. More like run towards. And I should do it within 3 seconds. Once I sense fear, I have a small window of 3 seconds to act. I call this the 3-Second Rule. Anything beyond the 3 second period is literally a danger to my life. That no-person’s land is what kills more dreams than failure ever has. Treading into that zone is what stops me from living fully, to live a 10 in every moment.

What comes after that 3-second period is not intuition nor the heart speaking, but logic, analysis, and filthy, defiled reasons to fucking not do something.  That not doing something keeps us in our safe zone, where it is barren with no life within the vicinity. That’s when the mind and all its lizard brain comes in. We feel less and think more. All of the world’s suffering has come from people over thinking.

I’ve been living below my potential and selling myself short for too long. And I don’t want to do that anymore. So what can I do?

I’ll write every day.

It’s a journey of a 1000 miles, and it starts with a single step.

I’ll learn to love the journey. One step at a time. One word at a time.

Because life is a journey, and if you fall in love with the journey, you’ll be in love forever.