David Goggins, I was 100% skeptical of you at first, but now I feel you’re a breath of fresh air. As I’m hearing your story in the book Can’t Hurt Me, which I recommend listening to on audiobook, I can’t help but ask myself, “what the hell have I been doing?”
I’ve had many moments in my life like this. Often times, they wear off in a day or two and I regress back to my usual old habits and thought patterns. But this time it feels different.
Life is tough, and I let my mind get the best of me. For far too long, I have lived in comfort. I’ve been reading self help not in an effort to improve myself, but to find the path of least resistance, or how I rationalized it to myself, the path of “efficiency”. What a bunch of bullshit. It’s all bullshit.
Books, courses, friends, excuses. Everything has been used as a crutch for why I’m incapable of achieving my goals. What’s stopping me? Just excuses. None of them are justifiable unless I believe them. Excuses sound best to the person saying them.
This is the first challenge offered in his book. Take stock of all my excuses and see them for what they are. So what are some of my excuses?
- My shoulder is injured from my near death bike accident. I need to take it easy.
- I grew up in a stressful household that messed up my psyche and emotions.
- I don’t have money, time, or energy to do it all, so I need to be “efficient”.
- My job search is tough because I’m lost and confused and can’t commit.
- I’m not a good salesperson, marketer, technical person, or anything really. I’m average.
- New York City is a tough place.
- My grandmothers are dying.
- My arms suffer from RSI, carpal, tendonitis, or something that make it painful to type too much.
- Therefore, I can’t practice programming or coding. My digital career is limited.
- My knees and shoulders are brittle.
- I’m not good looking or strong or smart enough.
- The world has been unfair to me and is picking on me, not giving me a fair shot at life.
- I need more schooling, mentorship, and instructions on how to be successful. Never ending preparation. No action.
- I’m broke.
- Bullies got the best of me.
- I abandoned friends and families in the past, which still haunt me.
- My past traumas are good reasons for my lack of success.
- I developed the habit of doing the bare minimum, half assing things, and giving up too easily when obstacles get in my way.
- I don’t know what to do and I’m using my confusion and over analysis as means to avoid taking responsibility.
- I’m sensitive and insecure and need the approval and permission of others.
- Someone has to hold my hands through everything I learn, like a tutor or instructor.
- I’m Asian. And somehow that’s limiting my abilities and opportunities for success.
- I’m supposed to have a successful business, white picket fence house, wife, and kids by this age. Shit. I don’t even have a dog. I’m a failed social experiment. (ouch)
- I’m still broke.
When I look at these head on, I see nothing. They’re just words, figments of my imagination. How could I let these thoughts that have no evidence hold me back from reaching greatness? Though I do feel their energetic imprint and bodily sensations, that’s all what they are.
The only thing I really need is a good attitude and healthy work ethics. Period.
There are no short cuts. Every time I take any, I’m only cheating myself out of success. I’ve been avoiding putting in the hard work for a very long time, looking for some secret sauce or magic bullet that will solve my problems and misery.
I’m tired of feeling sorry for myself and believing all of my excuses.